Feel like yourself again WITHOUT feeling selfish.
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How FlareCircle Helps YOU Heal:
Transformative Women's Retreats
Spend an empowering weekend with the most important person in your world - YOU! Experience transformational self-connection as you recharge, reconnect, & nurture your most authentic self amidst elements of fire, earth, air, & water. With a supportive circle of retreat sisters, you'll be guided through a deep-dive into best practice, trauma-informed techniques proven to rekindle your passion & love for life - & YOURSELF.
Each retreat features expert guest teachers, delicious food, luxe accommodations, gorgeous self-care swag & materials, powerful workbooks, customized SAH Method sessions, connected time in nature, empowered journaling, gentle yoga, meditation, & more!
You'll find yourself shouting "THERE SHE IS!" as you learn how to safely invite your most joyful, vibrant, authentic self back into your life.
SAH Method™ Movement Healing Sessions
Offered in person (Central Coast California) or via Zoom!
Using the revolutionary Somatic Activated Healing (SAH) Method™ I help you learn how to love yourself back to life, FAST! Each vibrant session releases negative emotional energy from your body AND teaches you how to quickly calm your nervous system through a powerful (and fun) series of techniques PROVEN to help you FACE IT, EMBRACE IT, & RELEASE IT!
The results of this method are miraculous - greater peace of mind, empowerment, self-love, trust, energy, pain relief & SO much more!
Expertly curated sessions combine meditation, mantra, breath work, movement, & MUSIC and can be customized to help heal what YOU need to release most right now. And the best part? This method helps flush those stuck emotions out of your body without the need to dig through your traumatic stories and relive them.
I'M HERE TO HELP YOU HEAL
Hi, my love!
My name is Heather and my passion is showing exhausted, diminishing women how to LOVE themselves back to life!
My coaching style is connected, authentic, full of JOY & COMPASSION, & deeply trauma-informed. I’m grounded in the empathy my lived experience gives me, particularly for the struggles of women & mothers in communities dominated by patriarchy & sexism. Read on to learn more about me & the fires I've walked through along my journey back to myself!
Inheriting Trauma
At my core, I’ve always been vibrant, full of love, laughter, acceptance, passion, & hope.
My mother nurtured & modeled many of these qualities too. But she was also deeply traumatized & emotionally dysregulated - everything had to look perfect on the outside, but inside nothing was ever really good enough. She was so stuck in her cycle of suffering that our family operated in constant fight or flight – either walking on eggshells or scrambling to calm emotional storms. Between my mother’s trauma & the fundamentalist culture of our Mormon community, my formative years were immersed in one constant message: when things fall apart, we have failed; worthiness is perfection & control.
When I was only 12, my beloved older sister came out only to be rejected by our family & community - literally discarded & left homeless. Between the traumatic fallout from that & my mother’s mental illness, home was a hellscape I felt trapped & isolated throughout my youth.
The Slow Death of Perfectionism
I entered young adulthood with deep compassion for the LGBTQIA+ community & a mission to fight for them. And I carried a fierce hope of forming a healthier, happier family than the one I grew up in. I refused to let my circumstances define me & truly believed I could survive, THRIVE, & break the cycle of suffering.
I met my “perfect” match at 23. We were wildly in love, faithful, successful, globetrotting best friends with no signs of slowing down for many years. I "knew" I had healed, built my perfectly controlled life, & left the demons of my childhood far behind.
But, as for all of us who are never shown how to sit with discomfort & regulate our own nervous systems, these demons were deeply rooted, hibernating, gaining energy from every disappointment & struggle. As the realities of life chipped away at my perfect plans, the cracks of anxiety, depression, shame, & fear began to show. I had become a master of holding it all together though & had no reason to believe I couldn't keep it up forever.
Dark Decade of the Soul
It was pregnancy & motherhood that finally broke the dam wide open. Pregnancy rolled in with debilitating illness & was soon followed by paralyzing postpartum depression. I felt weak, angry at God & my body, and (for the first time in my life) felt like a complete failure. Because no matter how hard I tried to rise above it, to refuse to let it define me, I just kept drowning.
Chronic fatigue set in hard, along with unbearable shame & guilt for not kicking ass at motherhood. The religious prescriptions for women I swallowed years began crushing me as I faced a very different reality than the domestic bliss I was promised.
And then, on my 30th birthday, I was diagnosed with Papillary Thyroid cancer - a diagnosis that dramatically affected my energy levels, relationship with my body, and further taxed my already crumbling mental health.
A few years of darkness turned into a decade of burnout, sleep addiction, self-loathing, & neglect. My marriage struggled. My body, brain, & heart were broken. I completely lost my sense of self, joy, & purpose.
Desperate to Love My Life Again
Thankfully, when I finally decided to beg for help & change, I was privileged to have the access & time for all the professional and self-help needed for a complete reset.
Over several years, and with the help & support of loved ones & trauma-informed therapists, I finally clawed my way out of my long, dark night (decade) of the soul. I re-engaged with social justice work, marched and worked for LGBTQIA+ causes, women’s rights, refugee drives, and Black Lives Matter efforts. And through years of work in therapy, I began releasing my codependence on my partner & the religious conditioning around my true purpose & power as a woman. I finally made peace with ONE child being the right number for me. And after 8 years as a stay at home mom,
I went back to work with no guilt.
My Suffering Became Fuel to Free Myself & Others
After loving MYSELF back to life, I developed a deep need to offer other women the tools that helped me heal. In 2021, I found the courage to breathe life into the dream of designing powerful emotional wellness workshops, classes, & retreats to help women just like me reclaim their joy, energy, & transformational self-love and trust BEFORE crashing & burning like I did.
Launching FlareCircle Wellness was like bringing another child into the world (which you now know is my biggest fear). It took SO much mental & physical courage to press go. I battled powerful waves of self-doubt. But I did it!
I now host several retreats per year, where every single attendee experiences gorgeous breakthroughs & reconnects with her most joyful, empowered self - all within the framework of a curriculum born from my darkest struggles & the tools that helped me transform them into fuel for my own freedom from suffering.
As if that wasn’t enough magic in my pocket - my retreat research led me to discover Somatic Activated Healing (the SAH Method™) and my world has EXPLODED with miracles. Somatic work is resurrecting & transforming me in the most unexpected & incredible ways; I now feel fully empowered to face the traumatic energy stored in my body, recognize how & when it shows up in my world, & change my responses BEFORE I'm carried away into panic, fear, anxiety, & chaos. I have literally been able to calm & release panic attacks within minutes of feeling the wave of anxiety roll in. I feel stronger and more in charge of my mind & body than I ever knew was possible. I wish my mother was still here so I could offer this magic to help heal her trauma. But I truly believe as we heal ourselves, we heal those who were not able to do so.
Becoming certified as a SAH Method™ Coach has elevated my mission to heal as many hearts & bodies as I can reach (including my own).
It's getting easier for me to say it the more I see the ripple effects -this work I am doing is truly LIFE-CHANGING. And I'm honored to bring it to YOU.
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